You Were Born To Bloom
You are not responsible for the blossoms all around you.
As an eldest daughter, you've spent your life being responsible, reliable, and always there for everyone who needs you. Those skills have helped to build a good life...yet it's always felt a little like you are prioritizing what everyone else wants instead of what you truly desire.
Does this sound familiar?
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You automatically say "yes" to coordinating the family reunion while your siblings wait to be told what to bring, as if being the organizer is just who you are.​
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Your best friend books a solo trip to Italy while you can't imagine leaving your family for a weekend, even though your husband goes on guys' trips twice a year.
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It's 3 am and you’re wide awake, replaying the presentation you gave at work and obsessing over the way your boss reacted, wishing you could go back in time to perfect every last detail.
These patterns helped you navigate your family, succeed at work, and show up for the people you love.
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But what if it's time to release old ways of being?
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Imagine kindly but firmly telling your younger sister and your mother that you aren’t going to weigh in on their latest argument, then hanging up the phone without second-guessing yourself.
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Imagine leaving a work project at "good enough" and going home on time without the usual guilt spiral about what you could have done better.
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Imagine booking a weekend trip with your girlfriends and feeling excited instead of anxious about who will handle everything at home.​
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This isn't about abandoning the traits that have always supported you and those you love—it's about releasing the conditioning that no longer serves you.
Through a six month, 1:1 coaching journey, we gently change entrenched patterns of behavior, updating belief systems to serve the person you have become, not the person you once were.​​​
After working with me, eldest daughters gain skills to prioritize themselves. They go from self-abandoning to believing that their needs matter, and claiming what they want with confidence..
I would be honored to be your guide.
My Name is Alissa Moore, and I'm the coach behind Deepening Creatures. I am an eldest daughter, my mother is an eldest daughter, both of my grandmothers were - yep, you guessed it - eldest daughters. And, I am raising an eldest daughter! I'm on a life-long journey to learn greater self-trust, make peace with my perfectionism, and honor the validity of my own needs and desires.
My offering is to serve as a thought partner and guide for eldest daughters who want to show up for themselves with the same fierce love that they bring to others. ​​
" The list of “problems” Alissa has helped me with include: Fear of failure, fear of achievement, lack of boundaries, disconnection with my true self perpetuated by cultural myths, stigmas and norms, negative self-talk, self-defeating behavior, guilt, more guilt, grief for time spent not caring for myself and for the life I'm leaving behind, and not knowing what I want.
When I sit down to a session my experience has always been to receive some sort of clarity. I often come away with a better understanding of myself and a more grounded perspective. I also come away with some next steps- like some way forward to either dive deeper into questions I have about where my wants, fears, trepidations come from and/or tasks to concretely move my dreams forward (do research, sketch out timelines, make to-do lists, project planning stuff). "
T.M., past coaching client
Eldest daughters possess something the world desperately needs—the ability to care for others, no matter what.
I’m guessing you’ve spent your whole life showing up and doing what needed to be done, and now, more than ever, those skills are critical.
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However, you can’t show up for your people (or the rest of humanity) if you aren’t showing up for yourself first. You know the advice about putting on your own oxygen mask and not pouring from an empty cup. But how often do you really live that way?
This work is about helping adult eldest daughters gather up the care, wisdom and love that we freely give to others, and shower some of those gifts back onto ourselves. By honoring our needs, wants and desires, we expand our capacity to keep showing up for those we love.
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